The focusing of your time and energy on your goals will often draw that proverbial time between you and those around you and create some mixed feelings. On one hand, some will hate and say you’ve changed. On the other hand, some will support you and be right by your side. The best option for aspiring entrepreneurs, in my opinion, is to ensure every single person you keep in your immediate circle serves a purpose. There must be some sort of mutual understanding between everybody where everyone has a role to play in each other’s lives. After all, who wouldn’t want to take their friends with them all the way to the top so that everyone can eat? Don’t make this strictly about yourself because it will take a collective effort to get where you want to be — there’s no way around that. Those that are constantly negative and not supporting you will only deter you from your path and need to be left by the wayside as you make this journey. Synchronicity is the key. Keep your vision clear, my friends.
Why is that the more expectations we place on our fellow man the more we are let down? This isn’t to say I put myself on some kind of pedastal, but hear me out…
In certain relationships, there exists a bond that is deeper than just mere emotional or sentimental attachment. A code of ethics, if you will. There are mutual expectations in order that all friends and associates adhere to and are expected to stand on. When everyone has this understanding, therein lies the foundation of their relationship. But, placing these expectations on our fellow man is very trivial. There is a saying that goes, “don’t put faith in man because you will be disappointed every time.” I find this to be quite interesting. I mean, I understood the truth in this statement the first time I heard, but until now, I hadn’t experienced it myself. We all have our role models or at least people in our lives that we hold in high regard. I feel this is natural. But, too often we are led to believe that these people are really someone they are not. The bottom line is, only a very small minority of people in your lifetime will stay true to themselves and to you. We can’t place high expectations on anyone for the simple fact that 9 out of 10 people will disappoint you. Even those that you THINK have proven themselves to you. It only takes one wrong move to destroy what years of camaraderie have built. We have to stay down and dilligent and be prepared for anything that comes our way. Expect the unexpected and know that the seemingly impossible is always possible.
This post is about the need for peer mediation in our communities. More specifically, unbiased peer mediation. Like that which was used in the movie The Godfather to handle the dispute between the two families. I, personally, am not the type of person to go run and tell my problems to everybody, but at times this is absolutely necessary whether we want to or not. We, as humans, a lot of the time tend to deal with problems based off emotion rather than logic or reason. This often times leads two people, sometimes more, down a path of destruction over conflicts that could have easily been resolved had they sought out proper mediation and not let emotions cloud their judgment. This alone has been the cause of several violent outbreaks in communities, families, and two or more parties. We need to start holding each other accountable for the things we do. My proposition is for people to start a group in the community strictly for this – similar to Neighborhood Watch. Maybe hold meetings every week, or as needed. I feel things should be handled directly in the neighborhood rather than in a courtroom or before the situation escalates into something much more catastrophic. Just a thought…
Almost 44 years after his initial sentence, Conway has finally gotten his freedom back. You can watch his interview with Democracy Now above, or click the previous link to read the transcript. I highly recommend you listen to what this man has to say regarding the COINTELPRO surveillance and what he managed to accomplish during his time in prison including the “Friends of a Friend” organization for inmates. It’s truly saddening this man lost 44 years of his life to an unlawful sentence. Free all the political prisoners.
Love and appreciate everyone around you because at any moment they can be taken away from you without warning. How many of us have lost a loved one and regret not spending more time with them? Or maybe even calling them and letting them know we love them or just to check on them? We get so used to them being around that we forget how short life is and how quickly things can change. We all are so busy with schedules and appointments that we forget tomorrow is not promised for any of us. Don’t let the hustle and bustle of every day life deter you from appreciating every second you and your loved ones have on this earth because it is only temporary. Don’t wait until someone is gone to appreciate them we need to celebrate them while they are alive not when they’re dead. This will only lead us down a road of regret. You’d be surprised at how much we take for granted.
Top of the morning all,
Be careful who you are loyal to. Don’t cross oceans for those who wouldn’t jump puddles for you. In today’s world, “bro” is just slang and “love” is merely a word and do not carry any weight to many people. Do not be deceived.
I’d like to offer some humble advice to those who are willing to listen to help prevent you from learning this lesson the hard way.
In life, we must understand that we can not help those who don’t want to help themselves. For example, many of us have had experiences with drug addicts and alcoholics and know that as much as we try to tell them they have a problem, they don’t feel like they do. They have to recognize the problem themselves. Often times this requires a “rock bottom” scenario that said-person experiences. This applies to many other problems as well. Maybe a person is a compulsive liar, gossiper, unfaithful in a relationship, untrustworthy, verbally abusive, etc. It is important to stay positive in life and you have to know when to hold ’em and when to fold ’em when it comes to friendships and relationships. There is no use enduring the hardship and struggle that comes with this when you are in complete control of who you choose to keep around you. There is nothing positive that can come from staying in a negative situation unless the cause of it can be changed. You can’t force someone to change all you can do is bring the problem to their attention and they will either see it and fix it or they don’t at which point you either stay and put up with it knowing it is detrimental to you or you cut them off. By no means am I saying cut off anybody you aren’t seeing eye-to-eye with or whatever but when you have done what you can do and have exhausted yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually then what other choice do you have? You can’t control what people do or who they are only they can. So, if need be, move on. Don’t be mad, don’t hold a grudge, just accept them for who they are and keep it moving.